mommy's style

mommy's style
mommy's style

kumquat's style

kumquat's style
kumquat's style

shop our closet

shop our closet
shop our closet

the highlight reel hypothesis

my outfit
tee :: j.bella (here) // button up tunic :: casting call via the urban hare // jeans :: 7 for all mankind (similar) // booties :: carlos santana (here) // purse :: rebecca minkoff (similar) // necklace :: slate // bracelet :: loren hope (here) // watch :: walmart // cuff :: jenny bird // earrings :: kendra scott (here) // sunglasses :: juicy couture
kumquat's outfit
shirt, pants :: little lass // sneakers :: healthtex (similar) // panda purse :: grocery store (backpack version)

This post was inspired by Essena O’Neill’s recent (and epic) exit from social media (read about it here and here), and by this post on Gary Pepper. They’re good ones, so be sure to give them a read.

Welcome to the new and improved Mommy & Kumquat.
I've been reading fashion blogs almost since their inception (since Liz of Late Afternoon was wearing Forever 21 in every post), and I've watched the rise of the "big bloggers” (and the fall of some). I have to admit that I've occasionally fallen prey to the "Highlight Reel Hypothesis" (comparing our real lives to the highlight reels of others posted on social media), and because of this, I have a very "on again/off again" relationship with my blog and the blogging world in general. Sometimes, seeing others achieve their dreams while I have failed has been incredibly demoralizing.

But, as I approach my 30th birthday, I've been thinking about the last decade or so, and specifically about how my style has evolved. I've realized that many of the most prominent changes have been influenced by others - not as a true expression of myself. Some have been for the better; some, not so much. Most of those changes correspond with major turning points in other areas of my life (again, some for the better, and others for the worse). Looking back, I can trace the evolution of my "self" through different phases of style, and most of those metamorphoses were at the behest of another person - someone I wanted to impress, but whose role in my life turned out to be largely temporary.

At this point in my life, though, I find myself “on my own” for the very first time in a very, very long while - not just in terms of romance, but lacking any sort of real social network. I have my family, of course (and one amazing friend who understands my antisocialism and forgives it), but now that I have my own daughter, I find myself the de facto leader of our little twosome, and it’s incited a very personal, very deep exploration of who I really am and what I really want out of life. I find myself making choices I never would have before - everything from what clothes and lipstick I put on in the morning (things that, in the past, would have been carefully chosen to impress a specific person) to those Major Life Decisions, including career and money. I’m legitimately in charge of myself for what might be the first time in my entire life.

And it’s not scary - it’s liberating.

Okay, yes it’s scary. It’s scary as all hell, because it’s not just me I’m making these decisions for - it’s my daughter, and her life too, which means that I can’t pick up and take off the way part of me would like to. It wouldn’t be fair to rip her away from the grandparents she adores, the cousins she’s so deeply attached to, or the father she loves. My childhood wasn’t perfect, but I’ve always had my family, and that’s something I want her to grow up with too.

So that means pursuing my dreams here. Developing new ones, if that’s what it takes. Building a life for the two of us that starts with a single brick. It means being brave, making those hard decisions for myself and for her, and learning the real meaning of the word “hustle”. It means proving to Kumquat that, as women, we are capable of anything we put our minds to.

Mostly, it means kicking some serious ass.

So, instead of shutting down Mommy & Kumquat and hanging out the “gone fishing” sign, as I nearly did, I’ve decided to revamp and relaunch with a new theme in mind: to #bebrave. Instead of letting the success of others discourage me, I'll use it as motivation for my own goals. Moving forward, we’ll feature more than just outfit of the day posts - you’ll still see fashion and style, but it will be mixed in with dating, parenting, travel and plenty of kid stuff. We’ll explore life as a mommy-daughter duo, and we’ll share it all with you - the good, the funny, the sad, the terrible and the embarrassing. We’ll invite you in and give you the full tour, including the hall closet where we stash the clutter when company comes to visit.

(And I say “we” because, when she’s old enough, (I hope) Kumquat will contribute as well. Writing and communicating are some of the most important real life skills we can teach our kids, and blogging together is a fun, creative way to do that while spending quality time and learning a variety of other useful skills.)

To celebrate the relaunch of Mommy & Kumquat (because what's a party without party favors?), we’re giving away a fun prize pack that includes a Samsung bluetooth selfie stick, a Kate Spade notebook (in print of your choice from B&N) and a gorgeous statement necklace from Freckles & Co - basically, everything you need to start your own style blog (or, just take some really awesome selfies and some really great notes). Enter using the Rafflecopter widget below; giveaway closes on December 15th at midnight, and the winner will be announced by December 17th.

coming up
As part of our new beginning, I’ve launched an Etsy-based design studio, packed full of some awesome templates AND custom design options, including media kits, resumes, business cards, holiday cards, website/blog graphics and more. Check back later this week for the official M&K Design Studio digital launch party, as well as a code for a *free* template or printable. I’ll also be sharing some pretty intimate stuff over the next few weeks, including what drove me to take up fashion as an obsession and my journey from “not to hot”, so stay tuned :)

This post contains affiliate links.


Anonymous said...

The new theme is fitting. <3

Can't wait for you to bare your soul to the world!

Ashley Frederickson said...

What a cute blog!! You have great style! So happy I stopped by!

Whitney H said...

I like your hypothesis on the highlight reel. 😊

Michelle H said...

What a beautiful perspective! Best of luck finding your own way!

Sydney Andersen said...

I totally agree with all of this. I would love styling tips for real mom's... Moms who have all of 10 minutes to get ready in the morning, if that.

Stacie S-H said...

I like the layout of your blog! I'm new so I don't really have any ideas yet of what I'd like to see but tips and tricks to living life in general would be awesome!

xumeiqing said...

true religion jeans
abercrombie and fitch
michael kors handbags
toms outlet
ugg outlet
ralph lauren uk
louis vuitton
gucci shoes
coach outlet store online
ugg boots
beats wireless headphones
michael kors
ray bans
coach factory outlet
oakley outlet
michael kors outlet
kobe 9
cheap uggs
ray ban wayfarer
abercrombie kids
jordan retro
jordan 11s
coach outlet online
true religion outlet
chanel outlet
michael kors uk
kate spade
michael kors outlet online
nike trainers
louis vuitton bags
polo ralph lauren
celine bags
cheap jerseys
adidas originals
abercrombie & fitch
oakkey sunglasses
canada goose jackets

chenlina said...

louis vuitton
toms shoes
oakley canada
polo outlet
polo ralph lauren
louis vuitton
adidas nmd
fitflops sale clearance
christian louboutin shoes
michael kors handbags
nike basketball shoes
air jordans
louis vuitton handbags
polo ralph lauren outlet
coach outlet store online clearances
louis vuitton outlet
ray ban sunglasses
ray ban sunglasses
cheap jordan shoes
louis vuitton bags
tods outlet online
gucci handbags
true religion jeans
ralph lauren outlet
nike outlet store
mont blanc pens
oakley vault
adidas originals
coach factory outlet online
cheap oakley sunglasses
michael kors outlet online
michael kors outlet online sale
michael kors handbags
adidas shoes
cheap jordans
ghd flat iron
toms outlet
instyler max
coach outlet clearance
coach factory outlet

Gege Dai said...

mlb jerseys
nike huarache
coach outlet store
pandora jewelry
oakley sunglasses
lebron shoes
police sunglasses
kobe bryants shoes
louboutin pas cher
air jordan 11
uggs outlet
mulberry handbags
tiffany jewelry
beats by dr dre
nike air max
yeezy boost 350
burberry outlet store
michael kors handbags
nike air max uk
swarovski outlet
rolex watches
ralph lauren uk
polo ralph lauren
kate spade uk
michael kors handbags
uggs outlet
nike roshe
ugg boots
true religion jeans
true religion jeans
ray ban sunglasses
iphone case uk
oakley sunglasses wholesale
lululemon pants
beats headphones

raybanoutlet001 said...

michael kors
nike air force 1
north face
pandora outlet
replica rolex
canada goose outlet
ugg boots
cheap jordans free shipping
packers jerseys
tennessee titans jersey

chenmeinv0 said...

ralph lauren polo shirts
michael kors outlet
oakley sunglasses outlet
burberry outlet online
vans outlet
coach outlet store online
adidas trainers men
nike outlet
hermes belt
adidas yeezy

Back to Top